We all know we shouldn’t compare ourselves as parents, or compare our children to others. We know this, we say it to ourselves on a daily basis. We remind ourselves that social media is just a moment in time or something set up to be viral worthy: Posing ourselves and our children in this wonderful happy picture – for example a day out, all smiles for the camera, everything’s wonderful, reality: you’ve been up since the crack of a sparrows fart preparing everything, your children have had 3/4 meltdowns before you’ve even left the house, bargained with a toddler to eat all their breakfast/put suncream/shoes etc on….you’ve hidden in the toilet and had a small cry, walked around the house 5 times before you left to make sure you have everything, probably changed your clothes, due to milk/sick/food stains.
Yet you’ve taken the perfect picture – a picture where you look like you completely have your shit together and are nailing this parenthood lark. To the outside world, to the mum that is having the worst day – in creeps this wave of envy, and the anxious thought of why can’t I do this, am I not a good mother. Am I not good enough.
I’ve done it, sat and watched these gleaming homes, immaculate mums, and thought why I am not like this.
So the point to the ramble is – I want you to remember and I’m saying this to myself too! What You See On Social Media isn’t Real! Stop comparing yourself, STOP thinking you aren’t good enough. You are smashing motherhood, so what if your home isn’t immaculate- it’s home, it’s lived in, it shows a family, children playing and having fun, and most importantly creating memories.
Remember it’s ok to take a break from social media if you are struggling, it’s ok to mute that person for a while if you can’t deal with what they are posting, it’s ok to have a cry, have a gin, have 5 minutes hiding in the bathroom to yourself. It’s ok to admit that you are struggling. Talk, talk to other mums, dads etc you’ll probably find that they are struggling just as much as you at times.
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